7 Conflicts Different Personalities Cause in Marriage

1. The Organizer vs. The Dreamer: One spouse thrives on structure and planning, while the other prefers spontaneity and creativity. The organizer may feel frustrated by the dreamer’s lack of follow-through, while the dreamer may feel stifled by the organizer’s rigidity. 

   Understanding: Recognize that both perspectives have value and find a compromise that allows for both organization and spontaneity.

    

2. The Communicator vs. The Stoic: One spouse may be open and expressive about their feelings, while the other is more reserved and internalizes emotions. The communicator may feel neglected or unheard, while the stoic may feel overwhelmed by emotional discussions. 

   Understanding: Acknowledge each other's communication styles and find a middle ground where both partners feel comfortable expressing themselves.

    

3. The Achiever vs. The Relaxer: One spouse may be highly driven and career-oriented, while the other prioritizes leisure and enjoyment. The achiever may feel frustrated by what they perceive as laziness, while the relaxer may feel pressured to conform to the achiever’s standards. 

   Understanding: Both perspectives can coexist if both partners understand that their personality types can balance each other out.

    

4. The Planner vs. The Adventurer: One spouse may prefer to plan and schedule everything, while the other is spontaneous and prefers to go with the flow. The planner may feel stressed by the adventurer’s lack of structure, while the adventurer may feel restricted by the planner’s need for control. 

   Understanding: Recognize that both perspectives have value and find a compromise that allows for both organization and spontaneity.

5. The Nurturer vs. The Independent: One spouse may prioritize caring for others, while the other values independence and self-sufficiency. The nurturer may feel unappreciated, while the independent spouse may feel smothered. 

   Understanding: Both perspectives can coexist if both partners understand that their personality types can balance each other out.

    

6. The Perfectionist vs. The Laid-Back Partner: One spouse may strive for perfection in every aspect of life, while the other is more relaxed and easygoing. The perfectionist may feel frustrated by the laid-back partner’s lack of ambition, while the laid-back partner may feel pressured to conform to the perfectionist’s standards. 

   Understanding: Acknowledge each other's strengths and weaknesses and find a way to balance both perspectives.

    

7. The Traditionalist vs. The Nonconformist: One spouse may value tradition and stability, while the other embraces change and innovation. The traditionalist may feel threatened by the nonconformist’s ideas, while the nonconformist may feel stifled by the traditionalist’s rigidity. 

   Understanding: Recognize that both perspectives have value and find a compromise that allows for both tradition and innovation.

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Did any of these sound familiar? It’s tough, isn’t it? Just imagine understanding your spouse on a deeper level, having fun, and laughing together. That’s exactly what you’ll learn to do in the 'ReDISCover Your Spouse' workshop!  Move past the miscommunications and gain new connections.

12 Great Ways to Enhance Your Marriage

• Set Weekly Check-Ins: Schedule time each week to talk about your marriage. This is a great opportunity to share what you’re grateful for about each other, and to talk about any issues you might be having.

• Work on a Project Together: Pick a project you both want to do, and work on it together. This could be as simple as building a garden, redecorating a room, or as complicated as building a house.

• Take a Class Together: Pick something you’re both interested in and take a class together. This could be a cooking class, a painting class, or a class on how to play a musical instrument.

• Plan a Monthly Date Night: Schedule a date night once a month to do something special together. This could be going out to dinner, going to a concert, or just spending time together at home.

• Spend Time with Other Couples: Invite another couple over for dinner or drinks, or join a couples’ group at your church or community center.

• Go to Therapy Together: Therapy can be a great way to work through any issues you might be having in your marriage. Consider going together to a marriage therapist or counselor.

• Take a Weekend Trip Together: Plan a weekend trip to a nearby city or town, or just go camping somewhere. Spending time together away from home can be a great way to reconnect.

• Read a Book Together: Pick a book you both want to read, and read it together. This could be a novel, a self-help book, or a book on marriage.

• Volunteer Together: Find a cause you both care about, and volunteer together. This could be anything from working at a food bank to helping out at a local animal shelter.

• Exercise Together: Find a physical activity you both enjoy and do it together. This could be anything from going for a walk or run to taking a yoga class.

• Share Your Dreams: Take some time to share your dreams and goals with each other. This could be anything from wanting to travel to a new country to starting a new business.

• Write Each Other Love Letters: Take some time to write each other love letters, and exchange them. This is a great way to express your feelings for each other and reconnect.

"Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day." — Barbara De Angelis