The Extraordinary Marriage

Charlie & Erika, True Love, Marriage & Family

So many couples put the cart before the horse.  They meet, hang out, get pregnant and then think... do we want to commit ourselves to each other for life and get married?

Too often the answer is no, and so explains, why there are so many children growing up without fathers.

Charlie and Erika Kirt not only believed in the Bibles version of marriage but also shared that truth with the world.  Last night I watched the over 4-hour tribute to Charlie's life, ending with his precious wife speaking.  Wow, what strength!

We live in a day and time where it can be dangerous to disagree with some folks.  Charlie took that chance and stood strong for 13 years, building Turning Point USA.  He believed in respect, but at the same time challenged others in what they believed.  

What if you and your spouse have been raised in such different families that your values and opinions are causing division?  What can you do?

#1 Remember what you loved about each other when you got married.

#2 Remember ...

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Before Your Family Breaks

My favorite pair of sunglasses broke this past spring.  They were fixable but I set them on the edge of the counter where I saw them most every day.  I figured if they were in plain sight... surely, I'd take a minute and glue them.

I didn't.  It's been 4 months... and today I finally took a few minutes to do what could have been done immediately.  Why is that?  P r o c r a s t i n a t i o n !

  Now... unlike a broken relationship, the crack in my sunglasses didn't get any worst.  I did have to apply some rubber bands to hold the glue tightly until it was dry.

A relationship begins to crack little by little and you do notice, but you tend to ignore it, making excuses like, he's got a lot going on, he's been working so hard, he didn't mean to explode like that.  It'll get better.  But what if it hasn't gotten better?  Some kind of action is needed if you want things to change.

- Books are priceless.  Here are a few that I use.

  • The Holy Bible
  • Empowered to Love (Focus on the Family
  • ...
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Awakening Adventure in Your Marriage

Were you attracted to your spouse

the first time you saw them? 

Most likely you felt butterflies in your stomach, your eyes lit up,

and you felt your breath as you spoke to them. 

Life became the adventure of meeting up, getting to know each other

 and deciding what you'd do next together. 

The more time you spent together, the more you adored

and wanted to be with them.

 

You began to plan your life together, marriage and work, with a family quickly following.  But then life got busy, time was short, money was short, and tempers and frustrations became more prevalent and your attitude towards one another changed.

Does that sound familiar?  Why do we suddenly begin to focus on all the things we don't like about our spouse?

I think it's because when we're dating, everything is fresh, brand new... it's an adventure.  It's exciting.  It fills our soul and inspires us anew every morning.

So, what do you do when you've been married many years?  How do you keep that Romanti...

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Connection of TIME & Relationships

You know TIME is an issue that divides many couples.  We all make choices of where we spend our time.    TIME is a basic NEED of many people, in order to feel valued, appreciated, and wanted.  I like to say when we way YES to one thing we are saying NO to another.  It's important to put your spouse at the top of your list, when it comes to spending time together.  Listen below.  #TheExtraordinaryMarriage 

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Marriages Energized by Forgiving

 

We are emotional people.  Some more than others.  Disagreements, untruths, and being ignored take their toll.  Some people act wrongly because they do not know how to act right.  But what happens when someone has hurt you or cheated you?  Do you carry that around for the rest of your life?  What good is that going do?  Listen to this weeks blog and if you want to hear the whole message... go here.  https://www.theextraordinarymarriage.com/podcasts/the-extraordinary-marriage-faith-family-fortified/episodes/2149081680   You'll be glad you did!

Relationship Coach, Connie Durham

Atlanta, GA

#TheExtraordinaryMarriage Podcast

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Power Walking Through the Seasons of Marriage

When we entered Holy Matrimony, we were young, inexperienced and in love.  We started out in an apartment but in 7 months bought a house.  Within13 months we had our first baby.  There's a song... "A baby changes everything" and it's so true.

A baby's helpless and requires 24/7 attention.  My husband Jeff was working full time, going to school at night and playing the organ at church.  I was finishing a voice degree, taking care of baby, and teach Ballet 3 evenings a week.  We we're inexperienced and learning on the job.  Isn't that what we all do?  It's the constant change and new experiences that kept us going through those years.  Personal growth that we weren't even thinking about, it was just naturally happing.

We were lucky, blessed, and I realize it 46 years later, because we understood the concepts of give and take.  Compromise.  Meeting in the middle.  Not my way but our way.  It worked beautifully.

We raised our kids with the integrity we learned from our parents.  Raising...

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Help for Broken Marriages

Well friend,

What causes a broken marriage?

  • Selfishness
  • Literally being unaware of what a loving relationship looks like.
  • Assuming your spouse needs the same things as you do.
  • Extreme personality differences that crush one another.

How do you find healing?

  • Pray together
  • Discuss what feels broken?
    • This means two-way peaceful conversations
    • This means listening as much as you talk
    • This means both of you are open to the NEEDS of the other
    • Commit long term to learning and growing together.

How do you stay on track for the long haul?

  • Learn to give more than you take - I call this making loving, helpful, deposits into your relationship rather than withdrawals like yelling, not keeping your word, or gaslighting your spouse.
  • Find what your spouse needs most from you and practice filling those needs.  Download my free resource, "The Chemistry of Lasting Love" and take ACTION by discussing and following through daily, weekly, monthly, until you succeed.
  • Take advan...
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Surviving Extreme Hurt in Marriage: Faith * Family * Fortified

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Marriage, Motivation & Clutter

 

Could it be that your spouse's DNA is already programed with neatness or messiness?  The Answer is yes!  Their mom can only do so much... the rest is DNA.  This same DNA predicts how they perceive the world, make decisions, and what motivates them. 

This is the first half.... find the second half on YouTube.  

 https://youtu.be/-iAmqjoYV6g 

#TheExtraordinaryMarriage #personalitystyles #opposites 

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