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Valentines was just a few days ago and even though I KNOW my husband and I are simply wired differently… I still get frustrated! I think of myself as logical and intuitive… this coupled with simple common sense says, pay attention and remember what I like and don’t like. That’s what I do for you. Anyone agree?
But his wiring is Servanthood, also called the S Style and he not only wants to please me, but everyone else in his path. As we all know, you cannot please all the people all the time. So, I’m going to say he’s simply spread thin, and can’t remember what I like or what’s most important to me. Did I say, we’ve been married over 40 years, with grown kids and grandkids, and my expertise is in understanding how different personality styles mesh? Sorry guys but is this just a man thing?
Everybody's born with a specific personality style (DISC) and add to that your childhood and the expectations of your parents, and you...
Valentines was yesterday and even though I KNOW my husband and I are simply wired differently… I still get frustrated! I think of myself as logical and intuitive… this coupled with simple common sense says, pay attention and remember what I like and don’t like. That’s what I do for you.
But he is wired as a Servant also called the S Style and not only wants to please me, but everyone else in his path and we all know you cannot please all the people all the time. So, I’m going to say he’s simply spread thin, and can’t remember what I like or what’s most important to me. Did I say, we’ve been married over 40 years, with grown kids and grandkids, and my expertise is in understanding how different personality styles mesh?
How you see the world is formed by the personality style (DISC) you’re born with, the expectations your parents had for you as a kid, combined with who you’ve spent the most time with, what...
Know your personality styles, apply the knowledge and get along better with your spouse. What you don't know may be causing division!
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I was just sitting on my back deck and because we've had a few warm days, I can hear a variety of crocking frogs, deep voices, high voices, loud voices. They're looking for who... is speaking their love language!
You know, as people, we like to be talked to a certain way. Maybe it's straight forward. Maybe it's more important to be thoughtful and kind, but however it is, that we communicate, we expect the same from our spouse. If we're both blunt, we're good. But if you're blunt and it hurts your spouse’s feelings then you need to know it and change it.
I have several friends who are straight forward... AKA blunt. I know I can be the same with them. Normally that's not my style. I'm always strategic when I have to tell someone something I know they don't want to hear. I detest conflict.
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My husband and I are able to laugh at many a situation!
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The are 4 basic personality styles and my husband and I have different combinations of those four styles. They are called D-I-S-C... each of the letters stands for a particular personality style.
Neither of us has very much of the D - ...
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Way too often we find ourselves being pushed and pulled through the day. We open our eyes not knowing where the day will take us. Breakfast for the kids, hunting for the lunch box, where are my keys, one of the kids is missing a shoe. Exhausting and the day is off to terrible start.
Now we’re in defense mode the rest of the day, unprepared, behind the eight ball, ready to jump on the next person who ask us for anything. You bite your spouse’s head off and they wonder why??
This is how you get caught in the “Crazy Cycle”. You bite, he bites, and you’re on your way. How did this happen?
In the picture, my husband and I were enjoying a day at Disney, when it began to pour down rain. We were soaked. If you know me… you know I have puffy curly hair…yes that’s how wet, we were. But we have learned not to sweat the small stuff. When we find ourselves disagreeing, we ask, how much does this really matter??!! Most of the time it...
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