We all have some kind of hopelessness.  What's yours?  Maybe not today, but another day.  Often we hear... Mind over Body, what's that mean.  Well first we have to get our head straight and that begins with our thoughts.

How do we do that?  Pay attention to everything you watch and listen to, who you hang out with, are you getting enough rest, finding things you enjoy?

Yes, a difficult relationship is draining.  If you allow yourself to be completely consumed, thinking about it all the time, dreading the next confrontation, you'll lose your winning edge.  The ability to refuel, see what is good, and feel empowered.

Whatever is troubling you can be major... or small in the big picture... but it's major to you.  Many times, the person causing the pain... is in pain themselves.  Hurting people hurt overs and are unable to think... about how they are hurting you.

Prayerize - Visualize- Actualize and find those that will support you, helping you through the adversity, and just maybe hel...

When bickering, constant tension, and even a bit of fear, play a part of your everyday,

God has a way of bringing us to our knees.  You might be the one who's enduring havoc in your marriage or you might be like me.  It was my daughter.  As a parent you only want all things beautiful for your kids.  You love them dearly. 

This is really WHY I have invested my time, money, and attention in relationships and families.  It's become my passion.  You matter.

I was intrigued with people differences in communication, how they think, their emotions, their ambition, and how they get along, before my 3 kids got married.  But once they got married, I realize that family background, each person's experiences in life, and their personality styles predicted their SUCCESS in marriage.

After lots of prayer, analyzing, sleepless nights, worry and tears... God moved, uncovered, brought awareness, convicted and showed them the way.  Their pinnacle was an opportunity for a Marriage Retreat at WinShape...

What might you be unaware of?  Something that's irritating you... how can you move passed it and enjoy life with your spouse?  Watch the video and answer the questions for yourself.  Visit me @ www.theextraordinarymarriage.com 

Connie

Basically, we hide from responsibility!  Nobody wants to say they are the cause for a failed relationship.  Life is a journey. 

Sometimes you don't even except that you are causing most of the hurt in your family, or more than likely...

if you are reading this, you are the one being hurt and don't know how to change that.

Parents who can't get along, pass that worry, fear and anxiety to their kids. 

How do you uncover a healthy relationship... when you don't know how?

Find Help!  A Pastor, mentor, friend, who is capable of looking at both sides, and be honest with you.  Listen to Empowered Couples, Stop Reacting, Start Loving Intentionally  It's #1 in a series of 5 podcast episodes by "The Extraordinary Marriage" meant to assist you in letting go of what's not working in your marriage, and guide you in embracing your personal power and finding the answers you need, to live peacefully in your own home.

Blame is in the instigator and in how we react to it.

Think... could I be p...

This week I am reminded that Awesome spouses are Godly spouses.  What happens if you don't have one or know nothing about such things yourself.  Google it, that is google the Christian Faith.  People cannot DO... what they do not know.

Saturday my husband was called on to do a funeral for folks coming in from out of town.  It turned out they were from 4 different areas of the states and 3 different families, meaning 3 different dads.

We've been brought up to be respectful, kind and thoughtful of all people, even those we don't agree with.  Funerals within this realm are calm and aim at honoring the life of the person who pasted.  Well, this funeral presented conflict, lack of self-control and altercation.  WHY?  Because part of these people evidently lived their lives a bit differently than what we are used to.  

Before the funeral started, one young woman saw a man sitting in the back of the church and went ballistic.  Yes, screaming and all body language that follows that... was i...

Navigating Marriage: Gaslighting & Communication (Riverside Video- 3 minutes)

Do you find yourself walking on eggshells with your spouse, way too often? 

Watch the 3-minute video.

Great rewards come to those that take the time to figure it out!!  So many people get stuck in the emotion and frustration of their marriage, forgetting to analyze and identify, why they're having so much trouble.

Marriage is made up of two different personalities that either work well together or constantly butt heads.  Add to that upbringing.  You may differ on how to spend money, discipline kids, who does the chores, what constitutes spending quality time together means, and so... much more! 

Do you both respect one another and what's the definition of a great marriage?

Have you seen one?

If you're finding more arguments than you'd like, I'd suggest keeping a diary and writing down how you were feeling before the argument started, the mood of your spouse and what started the argument. That way you...

 Hello Friend,

Are you feeling disconnected from your spouse? Many married women report feeling this way, with pretty good size problems 70% of the time and life is livable... just 30% of the time.  If you find yourself walking on eggshells, dreading your spouse coming home from work, or feeling exhausted from arguments, you're not alone.

Here are three ways to move forward and regain your confidence and hope:

1. Draw Closer to God:

   • Engage in private prayer.
   • Find a supportive church community.
   • Experience returned hope.

2. Understand It's Not Your Fault:

   • Recognize that gaslighting may be involved.
   • Acknowledge deeper issues.
   • Know that your spouse may lack the skills to communicate.

3. Put on the Shoes of Your Spouse:

   • Is he stressed?
   • What does he need most from you?
   • Does he need time to decompress from the day?

Coaching Questions to Help You Solve Your Problem:

• Have you set your expectations too high?
• What’s most important to each of you in life?
• Wha...

Valentine’s Week is here, and while roses and chocolates are nice, let’s talk about what really matters: love languages! If you want to avoid that awkward moment when you give your spouse a gift they don’t want, you need to learn how to speak their love language and figure out what's most important to THEM. This week, we’ll explore the 5 Love Languages and how understanding them, can enhance communication and connection in your marriage.

But wait, there’s more! If you want to ensure lifelong success in your marriage, here are three areas to understand about your spouse:

1. Their Personality Style: Uncover how to handle their temperament, how they think, what’s most important to them, and how they respond to everything.  This is what I use for coaching and share in the "ReDISCover Your Spouse" workshop.
2. What They NEED Most from You: You can find this in “The Chemistry of Lasting Love.”  It's FREE
3. Their Love Language: It’s simple—just ask them!

And speaking of love languages, let’s...

Time spent together is a well spent investment.  More than likely it's fun and similar interest that brought you together in the first place.  The book called "His Needs, Her Needs" says that couples need 15 hours a week together to keep the romantic love flowing.  If you think about it... it's when you're both kept way too busy, stressed out and tired, that you snap at each other and are irritated by one another's actions.  If you want to spend the rest of your life together... and you want it to be a GOOD life... best remember to continue to invest your time and energy into it.

Here are 7 simple date night ideas.  Often, we do the same ole thing, like the movies or dinner out.  Finding new things to learn or do together, also gives you something NEW to talk about and keeps life more interesting.  In The Chemistry of Lasting Love, I share 50 Date Ideas.  You narrow them down by each choosing your Top 10 or 15, then see which ones you have in common.  For renewed romance, it's importa...

My Quilting get together is today.  It's the first week back to everything after the holidays.  I pride myself in keeping my commitments and I'm looking forward to working on a baby quilt.  Time is of the essence... that baby will be here soon.

My day begins great, but not with what I'd planned.  I'm also back on that crazy diet that works, (I lost 10 lbs. in the fall) it's nutritious, it's real food... but it takes following the guide and lots of extra prep time.  That's why I've gained weight, always in a hurry, don't eat until I'm starving, then I grab PB&J and anything else that's close by.

I text my quilting friends that I'll be an hour late. I finish the two work items that I've deemed most important this morning, make my salad for lunch, grab my snack that's on the list, realize I still haven't eaten breakfast, I've got to put my sewing machine and sewing box in the car... and suddenly I realize... I'm running around like a crazy woman. 

STOP!  It's 30 minutes to my quilting ...