Avoiding Affairs

You and your spouse both have needs, but are your needs the same? 

Does your spouse need what you think they do, or have you even thought about it? 

I'm here to tell you, your spouse may not be needing what you're thinking, why?  Because most likely you're thinking your spouse NEEDS the same things YOU do.

Got the picture?  It's not always sex either.  Every human being has specific things they need from their spouse to feel supported and loved.  When these NEEDS are attended, they grow closer as a couple.  They LIKE their spouse and enjoy spending time together.  So, why doesn't anyone talk about this?

Because they are unaware!  Have you really thought about this yourself?

Today I was watering my plants. I often remember when the leaves are falling off or drooping.  There's a particular plant (You see it in the photo) that sends out runners or fast-growing roots that come up outside the dirt... LOOKING for water.  Those roots are thick and desperately looking for water so it can stay alive.  Are there any aspects of your marriage doing that... sending out runners... looking for a friend, a kind word, support and acknowledgement that you are special, appreciated, and interesting?  Could your spouse be feeling like that?

Do you see my point?  It's time to have a conversation and figure out what you and your spouse need most from one another.  You probably don't even know that answer for yourself!  Hi, I'm Connie, the host of "The Extraordinary Marriage" Podcast and I have something for you.  It's an opportunity to invest in what's most important to you... your marriage.  It's call "The Chemistry of Lasting Love".

Why do I give this to you?  Because I've enjoyed a long-lasting loving marriage, and I want that for your too!

Connie Durham

Relationship Coach

#TheExtraordinaryMarriage