The kitchen sink is full, the counters are loaded, toys are everywhere and there are no clothes to wear in the drawers!  On top of that the kids are fighting, the parents are yelling and it's time for everyone to get into the car.

How did we lose control?  

Are you feeling hopeless?

Are you and your spouse irritated and frustrated with each other?

Home is supposed to be with the heart is, relaxation is, and it's the place you want to be most.  If not, it's time to take action and create the place you want to come home to.

First, I'll say that we are not all created equal when it comes to organization skills.  Top organizers are hardwired personalities that have great need for everything to be in it's place.  They are more than likely NOT reading this.  For the rest of us, we either were required to keep things neat as a kid or have realized it's a must, in order to function... happily.

It is these differences in personalities that often cause great division and frustrations for c...

Bringing two different people into a win, win relationship may not be easy.  As I discuss in "The Rediscover Your Spouse" online workshop, we all have different personalities, perspectives, and past.

Your upbringing determines how you see the world, what you care about most, along with the integrity of how you live your life.

Some personalities live their days filled with habits, structure, and goals.

Other personalities trod along each day freely taking each opportunity and obstacle as they come.

There's a great value in both and a great need that each has.  One needs structure to function while the other needs freedom to function.  As always, the sweet spot is right in the middle.  Structured spouses could lay back a bit and the Freedom folks could use a few more... good habits.

But what happens when two people marry and they're opposite in this way? 

One may have a need to control the other or demand that their spouse function the same way they do, because the structured perso...

 Can you hear it? 

Your spouse is screaming at the top of their lungs

in frustration because you owe more this month

than you have money coming in? 

It's happening every month and it's sinking the ship!

Lack of Communication: Talk about everything!  In order to get along with your spouse, you must uncover what you need most from each other and what you expect from each other.  If you have different spending habits, your marriage is a car crash waiting to happen.  Take the TIME to figure it out and more than likely, it's going to take some work.

   Cut the Hard Feelings Now:  Who's going to be the main bread winner and who's going to take care of meals, washing, cleaning, and raising the kids?  Is one job more important than the other?  Will you both contribute to income and household?  Create a Spending Plan and stick to it.  Be fair.

   Talk about your Spending Habits:  Do one of you need the latest and greatest to feel satisfied?  Are one of you the coupon queen (or king) ...