The Need for Freedom in Marriage (10)
Bringing two different people into a win, win relationship may not be easy. As I discuss in "The Rediscover Your Spouse" online workshop, we all have different personalities, perspectives, and past.
Your upbringing determines how you see the world, what you care about most, along with the integrity of how you live your life.
Some personalities live their days filled with habits, structure, and goals.
Other personalities trod along each day freely taking each opportunity and obstacle as they come.
There's a great value in both and a great need that each has. One needs structure to function while the other needs freedom to function. As always, the sweet spot is right in the middle. Structured spouses could lay back a bit and the Freedom folks could use a few more... good habits.
But what happens when two people marry and they're opposite in this way?
One may have a need to control the other or demand that their spouse function the same way they do, because the structured person NEEDS that structure. One may demand to have all the say so... not giving the other adult... the opportunities to express themselves and take part in decisions.
Some people need POWER, some need FREEDOM and whichever side you're on, is part of your built-in personality style. What if you could understand more about your spouse and find the middle ground in your marriage, would it make a difference?
I have found 3 important areas that keep couples headed towards a lifelong, happy, healthy relationship.
1 - Understanding the personality (Or behavior style) your spouse was born with. (ReDISCover Your Spouse)
2 - Crack the code to your spouse's heart: Understand their needs and fuel your passion! (FREE Click Here)
3 - Empower your marriage for success by understanding How to overcome conflict, have a conversation, and move past it. (Empower Podcast Series)
I began "The Extraordinary Marriage" online so that spouses everywhere could find the help and answers they need to improve their marriage and enjoy the journey more. You can start free by listening to the podcast and getting my free gift. Then invest a few hours and dollars into the LIFE you LIVE every day. You'll be so thankful you did!
Connie Durham
Blog 10 of the 20-part series this month
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Connie Durham
John Maxwell Speaker & Trainer
*Connie believes that Communication & Understanding are key in developing long, productive, happy marriages. ***** "Disciplining yourself to do what you Know is Right and Important, although difficult, is the Highroad to pride, self-esteem, and personal satisfaction". *Margaret Thatcher
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