Awakening Adventure in Your Marriage

Were you attracted to your spouse

the first time you saw them? 

Most likely you felt butterflies in your stomach, your eyes lit up,

and you felt your breath as you spoke to them. 

Life became the adventure of meeting up, getting to know each other

 and deciding what you'd do next together. 

The more time you spent together, the more you adored

and wanted to be with them.

You began to plan your life together, marriage and work, with a family quickly following.  But then life got busy, time was short, money was short, and tempers and frustrations became more prevalent and your attitude towards one another changed.

Does that sound familiar?  Why do we suddenly begin to focus on all the things we don't like about our spouse?

I think it's because when we're dating, everything is fresh, brand new... it's an adventure.  It's exciting.  It fills our soul and inspires us anew every morning.

So, what do you do when you've been married many years?  How do you keep that Romantic Love Alive?

#1 Let the voices in your head see and repeat the words you once thought about your spouse.  That thing you adored.  Focus on the best qualities, just like you want them to focus on YOUR best qualities. 

It is said... You get more of what you FOCUS on.

#2 Be Aware of your own emotions.  Your ups and downs and how you respond to your spouse.  Do you anger quickly?  Do you nit-pick their every move? 

#3 In the book "His Needs, Her Needs" the author shares the importance of having FUN together.  In order to keep Romantic Love alive, you'll want to spend time together doing things you both like to do.  Sometimes it's hard if you have very different interest, but in the name of Growing your relationship... this is a must. 

Some people don't mind eating at the same restaurant, going on the same vacation and watching the same TV shows while others need to change it up every so often and do something new. 

If either of you has the need for change and new adventure, take note.  It's important.  Find new things to do together.

If someone asked you or your spouse, who do you have the Most Fun With?

Focusing on the BEST Qualities of your spouse and being aware of how you treat and respond to each other, predicts the longevity of Romantic Love.  Think about it, do you like people who are rude to you or admiring?  Your marriage deserves your best attitude, and you can have your best attitude toward your spouse when you see the best in them, treat them lovingly, and have fun together.

Grab "The Chemistry of Lasting Love" list of 50 things couples can do together, then sit down with your spouse and plan a relationship that continues to grow, creating Romantic Love that last a Lifetime.

Believing you can keep the love alive,

Connie Durham

Relationship Coach, Speaker, Wife, Mom, Nana

The Extraordinary Marriage