10 Ways to Make My Marriage More Loving & Enjoyable (1)

Are you doing too much?  Do you feel scattered and a bit unorganized?  This affects your whole household.  Truth is that some people are wired with perfect habits while others of us... continually search for them, because we've realized that we need them, but they seem slightly out of reach!

When we capture just a few most important habits,

life gets easier. 

Marriage is like any major business.  Leadership starts at the top.  You find what works best for the two you, you experience more love and happiness, you work better together as a team, and the whole family benefits!

I say, TALK about everything!

You can't do everything, but you can do something. 

Keep reading and check off what you already do...  and SCORE! 

Now look for your top 3 you'd like to begin doing

And start with #1.... until established

Then go to #2.

1. Plan your time together. 

    * Life is busy.  Put your DATENIGHT on your calendar every month.

2. Talk about everything. 😄

   • Every week, set aside time to discuss what's going on and know and respect what's most important to each of you.  Make one another top priority. (This makes your spouse feel loved!)

3. Listen to each Other and Foster Teamwork by...

   • Meeting in the middle on most everything.  That means how you spend and save money, discipline the kids, divide up the household chores, dream and aspire, and so on.

4. Keep a Family Calendar

   • A big one in the kitchen or a shared google calendar so that you always remember what's most important.  (This keeps the conflict and frustration way down!)

5. Create Memories 🌟

   • Make family dinners a priority, take a walk together, plan a vacation, work on a project together.  Live life on purpose.

6. Set a time to put the phones down.

   • Breath, talk, spend quality time together.  This goes for the whole family.  People in your home are the most important people you know. 

7. Learn to Listen well

   • Being listened to makes us feel heard, loved and appreciated.

8. Everyone likes to EAT, so many do not cook. 😯

   • Set a time to plan meals weekly.  Maybe you go out once a week on your busiest day or cook in the crock pot.  Where there's a will, there's a way.  😉

9. Find Hobbies You Both Enjoy

   • Couples need 15 hours together every week.  Sleeping doesn't count.  🙄
10. Focus on Gratitude  * Remember what you love about each other.  Pay attention to what your spouse does for you.  (Dig deep if you have to.)  It's more than you realize.  Focus on what is good and express appreciation daily.

This is the first of 20 Blogs that talk about challenges most couples have.  Too often people are so busy they put off addressing conflict and frustration in their relationship until suddenly one day Boom... they have to.

I'm Connie with "The Extraordinary Marriage" podcast and the "ReDISCover Your Spouse" online workshop for couples where even ONE spouse looking for answers will make a difference. 

30 Days... 20 Blogs... 20 ways to make your marriage extraordinary.

Connie Durham, married over 40 years,

wife, mom, nana, speaker and relationship coach

in the suburbs of Atlanta, GA

www.theextraordinarymarriage.com