3 Benefits of Appreciating your Spouse

Last Friday was Halloween and for the first time in years, we gave out candy.  You see, we have trees and live far off the road.  We built our house 37 years ago and quickly found out that no body walks us a long driveway in the dark!  Our Church held a "Trunk or Treat" this year, so my husband and I decorated with hay, pumpkins, and mums and had a Photo booth for families to take pictures.

I went to my first Christmas Concert this weekend... yes... Jesus only Jesus Concert with Charles Billingsley, a Christian singer of many years.  He was fabulous and to top it off, I got to lead the opening praise team of 5 ladies, God continues to stretch me even at this age.

You know, it is that continued growth that keeps me alive with passion and energy!  That same energy flows into my marriage, weekly blog, and my marriage podcast.

FIRST - I'm always looking for ways to appreciate my husband, on purpose and automatically.  Every person wants to be SEEN, Heard, and Appreciated.  Without this, your relationship grows stagnate, like a dammed-up stream... dead bugs, leaves, dirt.  No fresh water constantly cleansing and making it new. 

How does it feel when your spouse tells you how much they appreciate you and how your love and caring mean so much to them.  Good feelings, new growth, and doing new things together, create that romantic love we all want.  I share 10 ways to grow romantic love with your spouse in episode 97 of "The Extraordinary Marriage" podcast. How would you like to find something new to do that both you and your spouse can enjoy together?

When you appreciate each other...

#1 Mutual RESPECT grows

#2 We like people who appreciate and respect us, so we also TRUST them.

#3 When we appreciate our spouse, respect them and trust them, hopefully it's mutual and romantic love grows, we're making big DEPOSITS in our relationship.  When you make big DEPOSITS in your relationship... small things are easily Forgiven.  Unforgiveness is a divider of relationships.  When there's a problem or misunderstanding, peacefully listen to each other and have a conversation, being open and having empathy for one another.

If marriage is not what you thought it was and you'd like help figuring out how to make it better, listen to The Extraordinary Podcast, consider purchasing an hour consultation with me, so that you can move past what's dividing you and find joy in your journey together.  Do it early, don't wait until years go by and hope is lost.

I'm a wife, mom, nana, speaker, teacher, and I have a passion for breathing new life into marriages, and ultimately into families.

Connie Durham

Atlanta Suburbs

Grow Together, Laugh Together, Love Forever

[email protected]