Before Your Family Breaks

My favorite pair of sunglasses broke this past spring.  They were fixable but I set them on the edge of the counter where I saw them most every day.  I figured if they were in plain sight... surely, I'd take a minute and glue them.

I didn't.  It's been 4 months... and today I finally took a few minutes to do what could have been done immediately.  Why is that?  P r o c r a s t i n a t i o n !

  Now... unlike a broken relationship, the crack in my sunglasses didn't get any worst.  I did have to apply some rubber bands to hold the glue tightly until it was dry.

A relationship begins to crack little by little and you do notice, but you tend to ignore it, making excuses like, he's got a lot going on, he's been working so hard, he didn't mean to explode like that.  It'll get better.  But what if it hasn't gotten better?  Some kind of action is needed if you want things to change.

- Books are priceless.  Here are a few that I use.

• The Holy Bible
• Empowered to Love (Focus on the Family)
• His Needs, Here Needs
• Everyone Communicates, Few Connect
• 8 Rules of Love
• Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% How you React
• The Magic of thinking big

Most of the time, it's not your fault although it may feel like it is.  I've found 3 reasons couples have misunderstandings in their relationship.

#1 Raised with different values of what's right and wrong.

#2 Misfortune and past pain creeps into current relationships

#3 Couples have conflicting personalities or opposite personalities causing them to see things differently.  We call this a difference in perspective. 

What we learn as kids + life adversities + personality = how we see and deal with the world around us.  If you and your spouse have differences in any of these areas, you will find conflict.

How will you deal with that? 

Do you need outside help in order to understand and come together? 

I understand the values and misfortune part, but we can't change that.  We can begin to understand those challenges and embrace the pros and cons of our personality styles... with education and understanding.

That's what I do in private coaching and the "ReDISCover Your Spouse" OnDemand Workshop.  I help you clarify why you and your spouse Think, Act, and Respond differently and how you can begin to close that gap.  Share with me in a private hour, your challenges, and I'll share my passion for family, make you feel supported, and suggest ways to communicate better.

The cost is just $29 to find fresh insight and identify some of the root causes of conflict in your relationship.  Get to know me better by listening to my podcast.  Building successful marriages and families are my passion.

With your success in mind!

Connie Durham

Private Coach, Speaker, Podcaster, Wife, Mom, Nana

The Extraordinary Marriage

Atlanta Suburbs