How to Fix a Marriage That's in Trouble

Feeling married, alone and wanting more out of life?

"If you're going to reach your goals, you have to start with a solid foundation, which is comprised of honesty, character, integrity, loyalty, trust, love, and faith"

Zig Ziggler

What does your relationship foundation look like?  Does it need some work?  Are you and your spouse both on board, doing what's necessity to make it happen?  What do you do if it's just you alone look for improvement?  You pray. You dig deep and you pray again.

Marriage is not always a bed of roses. 

Remember that even beautiful roses have thorns.

Pain fills us with emotion, negative voices, that stop us in our tracks and hold us hostage.  Where do we find the energy to keep going?  In prayer and with those who love us, pick us up and encourage us, allowing us to move forward one step at a time.

Hurting people hurt others, they just can't seem to help themselves.  They too want help, but ask for it in odd ways.

--- Begin with prayer and picture the relationship you want, do this daily

--- Focus on positive thoughts and words

--- Let go of the things that don't matter and fucus on what you like about your spouse

--- You can eat an elephant one bite at a time... it will take patience and perseverance

"How do you build a magnificent marriage?  It's not the great honeymoon, big Christmas, or expensive vacation, it's the everyday acts of time, respect, affection, and courtesy that you show to each other.  You raise positive kids in a negative world with daily injections of love and direction and concern." 

Zig Ziggler

Zig also says, "We need to shape up physically, shape up mentally, and shape up spiritually -- all are so closely tied together."

He also says, "it's not what happens to us, it's how we handle what happens to us that makes the difference."

Yes you're human, you want to feel loved and appreciated.

I find that people bring the hurts of the past into the here and now.  How that hurt shows up in your relationship is based on their personality style.  Some bury it, some pour it out through drugs, alcohol, mental or physical abuse.

I help you understand your spouse and figure the triggers and what makes you both feel loved.  It's a process.  Personal growth.  It's hope.

Connie Durham

The Extraordinary Marriage Podcast

Let's figure this out together.

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