Power Walking Through the Seasons of Marriage

When we entered Holy Matrimony, we were young, inexperienced and in love.  We started out in an apartment but in 7 months bought a house.  Within13 months we had our first baby.  There's a song... "A baby changes everything" and it's so true.

A baby's helpless and requires 24/7 attention.  My husband Jeff was working full time, going to school at night and playing the organ at church.  I was finishing a voice degree, taking care of baby, and teach Ballet 3 evenings a week.  We we're inexperienced and learning on the job.  Isn't that what we all do?  It's the constant change and new experiences that kept us going through those years.  Personal growth that we weren't even thinking about, it was just naturally happing.

We were lucky, blessed, and I realize it 46 years later, because we understood the concepts of give and take.  Compromise.  Meeting in the middle.  Not my way but our way.  It worked beautifully.

We raised our kids with the integrity we learned from our parents.  Raising kids begins with tons of LOVE.  More Love and more understanding, listening, but holding them accountable for their actions.  Demonstrating ourselves what we expected from them.

Teen years weren't hard because our kids were respectful of us... just as we were respectful of them.  Each with their own personality and way of doing things.

We had all 3 of our kids in 5 months and fast forward about 20 years... they all got married in 18 months... and then the babies... yes before I felt old enough, I became a Nana.  Life was beautiful, sweet, the grandbabies kept coming.  Everything seemed perfect... until it wasn't.

Heartbreak with one of my kids happened and life as we knew it, was gone.

But you do your best to figure it out and keep going.  You ask God why?  You continue to support one another as a family, and you keep on going. 

I call it bloom where planted.  Do you have a choice?

We don't have complete control on our lives, only our choices to be the best person we can be.  There's a ton of information on every topic you can think of at your fingertips, but it still requires action, desire for something better, and a positive attitude.

Life is a journey.  Every day is a new choice to grow, give, and love.  If you're finding conflict with your spouse and feeling unloved and unsupported, know that your spouse's misery is not always about you.  More than likely it's about them.  Something from their past or it could be a conflict between your personalities. You can figure it out.  Make sure your source is trustworthy and holds the same values as you do.

I can help you sypher through the challenges and figure out where the divide's coming from, in order to get on a more desirable track.  Just take a step out.

^{The book of Romans chapter 12 says.... 2} Do not conform to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Connie Durham

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