Stronger Together: Overcoming a Stressful Family Get Together.

First let's address that NO Body wants to attend a family gathering where there's back biting and bickering!  Hurting people hurt others, they just can't seem to help themselves but... family is family. 

If we can be realistic and optimistic, knowing we're prepared before we go, there IS hope!  AND we all have to do things that are not just about US!  Going to that family gathering or office party with your spouse is a Must!

We allow people and the world to pull us apart as a couple, or we are determined and united to stand together.  What don't kill us, makes us stronger, LOL.  Ultimately being prepared with understanding of the people you're with will help you move past unwanted comments. Sometimes it's just best to not respond.

Everyone comes in with their own burdens, stresses, frustrations.  Learn to see people, know where they come from, and have a little mercy.  You see every behavior style at a family function.  

A - The Over Talker

B - The Booster

C - The Gripper

D - The Helper

Which one are you?  Often, we are unaware of our own behavior and super aware of the person that irritates us most.  Which one above irritates you?

Let's understand people a little better.

You see, we are each wired with a specific personality.  That personality is affected by its surroundings, how we're nurtured as kids, how much we like our job, and how we personally view the world. 

Do you see everything that's wrong or do you see the good in people? 

Do you hang on to past hurts, letting them grow into monstrous demons that hurt your feelings and feed into all your relationships? 

This may be crushing your confidence, keeping you from finding joy and holding you back from being all you can be.  Here's the other side of the people described above.

A - Over Talker is Loving and Positive and brings a great attitude.

B - The Booster is a leader and gets things done, they may be the host

C - The Gripper makes sure all the details are taken care of things get cleaned up

D - The Helper... well... they're always nice

Could it be possible, this year could be different... or maybe you will be different.  I have found if I can clean up my own attitude, the world is a brighter place.  

No, I can not control the behavior of others but I can LOVE them anyway and LOVE covers a plethora of sins.

1 John 4:19 – “We love because God first loved us.”

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 – “Love is patient, love is kind... Love never fails.”

The Forgiveness Formula on YouTube or Listen Here.

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Connie Durham

Relationship Coach

Atlanta, GA