Today's my 46th Wedding Anniversary

Jeff and I celebrated our 46th wedding anniversary this past Saturday Night at an extra cool restaurant called the Old Mill.  It was buzzing with people coming and going, happy people, friendly people, looking forward to their own special time.  Today is actually our anniversary but sometimes you have to move your special day to another, in order fit it in.  Today, I put on a gray T- Shirt and headed to the church to help out with Bible School.

I was thinking about all the kids that came, some from our church, others that had never been there.  Some knew all about the Bible, some followed directions really well, while there were others, that you quickly remembered their names... because you had to call their name so many times, you know, they had a bit of trouble doing what was asked, but it's ok, some need a little more attention than others.

In Imagination Station the kids learned that when you rub a needle about 80 times on a magnet, IT, becomes a magnet.  Then we put the needle on a cork and let it float in a little tub of water.  Guess what... the needle turned and pointed to the North, thus this weeks event is called "True North".  The idea is that Jesus is our compass and when we follow him, he directs our way.

So many couples get lost and never make it to 46 years.  They were crazy over each other when they first married, but little by little they lost what they once had.  They lost their way and had no idea how to recalculate.  Did you know that you can GOOGLE "Tell me what the Bible says about Marriage."  There are books on it, podcast on it and if you need some redirecting, it's available. 

(Here's my podcast... www.TheExtraordinaryMarriage.com)

Soooo... Why don't couples look outside themselves for help.  I think they get so crazed and irritated with each other, they lose hope, decide they don't want help, and they just want out.

People at that Restaurant were dropping a load of money, just to feed their bellies one meal.  Why don't couples invest time and money in understanding one another before it's too late?

In that same Bible School class, the kids played with magnets, taking note that one side made them STICK TOGETHER and one side made them REPEL one another.  That's it, at first you and your spouse wanted to do everything together, learn new things together, figure it out together... UNTIL you both showed your wrong side.  Suddenly everything you did repelled, why?

You SEE things differently because of how you were raised and your personality styles. 

• Some people are easy going and others high strung. 
• Introverts need time alone while extraverts need people stimulation! 
• You handle STRESS differently and all these things come together causing to LOVE to be together or REPEL each other. 

But it doesn't have to be that way.  The more you know, the more you grow, the more you can learn to focus on what brought you together and let go of the small things that really don't matter anyway.  Don't wait!  Start now.

Here are a couple places to begin.

https://www.theextraordinarymarriage.com/Relationships 

**https://www.theextraordinarymarriage.com/5NEEDS 

Forty Six years have whizzed by... I feel at least 20 years younger than I am, why?  Because Jesus was our compass.  Our parents taught us well.  We knew how to be loving, forgiving, work hard and have fun together.

Do you have fun together?  If not, it's time to heal the hurts and learn to reconnect.  

CLICK HERE, it's free and you'll be amazed at the simplicity and healing power.

 Connie Durham

Wife, Mom, Nana, and Relationship Coach

Atlanta, Ga